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Archive for October, 2008
Tuesday, October 28th, 2008
Hey 4:8 Thinkers,
Last week I spoke to a group and spontaneously raised a question which has stuck in my mind since I first asked it Thursday afternoon.
In an effort to get it out of my mind, I want to share it with you…
With so much social and media chatter about difficult times, the troubled economy, financial crisis, and so forth and so on… I asked the group if they’d be willing to swap their health, their marriage, or their kid’s safety if they could regain their own financial strength.
In other words, I was really asking if they would have preferred to experience a trauma with their health, a crisis in their marriage or with their children rather than a setback in their pocketbook.
As is so often the case, the question was the answer.
And it’s a question we might prefer not to ask, but when we do, we almost inevitably breathe a deep sigh of relief and realize how blessed we truly are. Sometimes, to maximize our sense of gratitude, it’s helpful to give thanks for what we don’t have to be dealing with in our life.
What about you? How would you answer the question?
Just for today…
· Practice feeling grateful for what’s NOT broken
· Reduce all forms of whining and complaining.
· Use spare moments to dwell upon the character of God.
· Refuse to nurse old wounds with your attention.
· Support and defend a victim of gossip or hearsay.
· Deploy your words to encourage your spouse and kids…a lot and then a little more still.
· Maintain your brain with healthy sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
Then wake up tomorrow morning, rinse and repeat!
Join the Magnificent Minority who spread joy, NOT stress!
Could there be a better time than now to THINK 4:8?
Have YOU Taken The 8 Day Challenge?
Since 1991… It’s all about Focus!
Coach
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Friday, October 24th, 2008
Just for today…
- Practice feeling grateful.
- Reduce all forms of whining and complaining.
- Use spare moments to dwell upon the character of God.
- Refuse to nurse old wounds with your attention.
- Support and defend a victim of gossip or hearsay.
- Deploy your words to encourage your spouse and kids…a lot.
- Maintain your brain with healthy sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
Then wake up tomorrow morning, rinse and repeat!
Join the Magnificent Minority who spread joy, NOT stress!
Could there be a better time than now to THINK 4:8?
Have YOU Taken The 8 Day Challenge?
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Wednesday, October 22nd, 2008
In last Saturday’s Wall Street Journal, Jason Zweig provides some great advice on dealing with fear and avoiding “trigger-happy “panic. The article on the front page of the Money & Investing section describes panic as a “wild, irresistible fear that spreads through crowds like an epidemic.” Of course, the emotion of fear is a consequence of thinking fear-rooted thoughts and the extreme emotion of panic is simply fear-intensified with negative energy, creating the “runaway train” dynamic that almost always makes things worse.
To be calm and poised, first think calm, faith-based thoughts. Remind yourself that God is in control, that this situation will soon pass, that there is an opportunity hiding in all of this. Every hour throughout the day, pause briefly and pray for wisdom, for discipline, for patience and for poise. Dwell on soothing words such as “Tranquility, Serenity, Peace, Relaxation, Harmony, Faith, Gratitude.” Repeat them in your mind or whisper them aloud.
Better yet, remind yourself of everything you know to be true about God. “God is all-powerful. God is love. God is sovereign. God is always with us. God is absolute truth. God never changes.” And so on.
Thinking about God is good, really good! And the bigger you make God, the smaller your problems become.
The Wall Street Journal writer finishes his article with the advice that “You cannot brush panic away with willpower alone, but you can quarantine yourself from contagious settings.” Here are his four suggestions:
1. Break the circle (of socializing with spooked investors)
2. Turn off the tube
3. Think Positive
4. Stick to it (and set yourself a goal)
Click here to read the entire article.
Coach
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Thursday, October 16th, 2008
For America to develop its full potential as a country, its leaders must promote and encourage the individual success of its citizens. After all, your success blesses others!
The Right to Excel and Fail
As Americans, we have the right to the pursuit of happiness, not the right to happiness itself. We have the right to equal opportunity, but not the right to equal outcomes. We have the freedom to succeed and the freedom to fail. We have the right to make the choices in our lives we believe will make us happy. If we make wise choices, then we have the right to enjoy the fruits or effects of those choices. If we end up making the wrong choices, then we must naturally suffer the negative consequences.
The Option of Working Harder & Smarter
Fortunately, we then have the right to learn from our mistakes and make better choices in the future. We have the option of paying a bigger price and of earning a bigger reward. We have the right to plan more, read more, learn more, work more, practice more, risk more and become more than the person next to us. This means we also have the right to be better and achieve better results. We can exercise the equal opportunity to become unequal, or we can choose to be average.
The Politics of Mediocrity
Nothing is quite so damaging to the future of America as the proliferation of resentment and envy toward the minority of peak performing men and women who are frequently and collectively referred to by the media as “the rich.” This negative attitude toward the financially successful is manifested in campaign slogans promising to “soak the rich” and “let’s make them pay their fair share.” But could there be anything more cowardly than a politician seeking to gain power by dividing Americans by economic class? I call this type of political warfare, “The Politics of Mediocrity,” and it is, no doubt, toxic to the American spirit.
Gold Is Best Worn By Those Who Earn It
Promising to punish, through higher taxes, those who’ve already excelled financially and succeeded (As many Americans would love to do) sends a mediocre message to the rest of the population. It is like taxing a gold medal winner in the Olympics. We could call it “The Phelps Tax.” Imagine, whoever wins the gold must have his or her medal melted down and redistributed to the second and third place finishers whose medals would then be redistributed to those who did not even place in the race. This would spread the wealth around a bit.
What do you think? The fact that Phelps had a clear goal, outworked his competition, and made maximum use of his God-given talent is immaterial. It simply isn’t fair that one athlete should succeed so greatly when so many other hard-working athletes have to return home with no medal at all. Olympic gold is best worn by Michael Phelps and money is best spent by the individual who earned it.
A 4:8 America Is Excellent and Worthy of Praise
America was founded on the principles of self-reliance, limited government, private property, individual initiative, hard work, and daring. Individualism has made America the great country it is today. Consider the American lifestyle today without the likes of Apple, Microsoft, Dell, Federal Express, Amazon.com, Starbucks, Chick-fil-A, Ford, Home Depot, and Kodak…..all companies founded by exceptional individuals and all of which add tremendous value to our lives.
A Little History…In the Name of Fairness
During the national crises created by World War I and World War II, the American people began to allow more and more government involvement in the economy through taxation and regulation. Sound familiar? Then, as American prosperity soared, many began to believe it was only fair and even “right” for the government to take some away from those who were doing well and pass it along to those who were not doing quite so well. Many economists and academics began to embrace the socialistic concept of controlling the means of production as well as the distribution of goods produced.
Socialism Is Not an Accident
Along the way, the idea of reshuffling America’s wealth became a very popular and often effective political strategy. Politicians would be in charge of taking from those who produced more and giving to those who produced less. Since the percentage of those who do really well (the top producers) tends to be quite small, it’s fairly easy to gain mass support for taxing them. In other words, if you take from Peter and give to Paul, you will very likely have the vote of Paul, and Paul represents the majority of votes. This perpetual dependence on government rather than self, spreads like social cancer, but plays very well to the lower side of human nature.
The Something for Nothing Obsession
This Robin Hood tactic of penalizing the successful and re-appropriating their assets would never even get off the ground in America unless it were fueled by the natural human tendency to try to get something for nothing. This is an all too fashionable fantasy which is always shattered in the long run.
When you try to get something for nothing you become nothing. You will only succeed financially and otherwise to the degree that you are able to resist the something-for-nothing urge that is so pervasive in our society. And all lasting success comes from putting in far more than you plan to take out. When individuals, via governmental interference, consume without producing, then others must produce without consuming.
Make This Promise, Achieve Genuine Success
Make a promise to yourself that you will expect rewards only after you create authentic value for others. Decide to consume only after first producing. These decisions will boost your self-worth and your potential for great success in the long run.
Remember, when you punish the achievers, you hurt most everyone else as an unintended, secondary consequence. Abraham Lincoln said, “You cannot help the poor by tearing down the rich. You cannot help the wage earner by hurting the wage payer.” For a society to prosper, it must never forget who creates the jobs.
The Class Envy Strategy
The creative minority who take responsible, persistent action toward their dreams often become the envy of those who stand by and just watch or report. Left out of the popular debate are the endless stories of true American enterprise, stories of incredible work habits, stories of entrepreneurs scarred with years of sacrifice, stories of individuals overcoming obstacles and thousands of other efforts hidden from view that, brick by brick, build the American dream. And those who promote the idea of assessing a punitive tax on this super productive minority seem to forget the lessons of history.
Who Needs Innovation Anyway?
You can look around the globe and see the destructive consequences of societies like the Soviet Union who, in the name of fairness and equality, tried to disallow success. Do your own research. Is there a single country that has punished its producers that you believe America should seek to emulate? These societies starved themselves from the ideas, innovation, services, products and jobs triggered by the so-called “rich.” As a result, they were unable to thrive and they eventually collapsed. While the strategy of class warfare succeeds in winning elections from time to time, it never really helps the intended beneficiaries (unless that is the politician) and, in the long run, hurts America by eroding and undermining the principles upon which it was built. To argue, even elegantly, against personal initiative, self-reliance and individual success is to take a cheap shot at the American dream.
Join The Magnificent Minority
Instead, become a member of the Magnificent Minority. Reject “mutual responsibility” and accept complete responsibility for both your actions and your results. Acknowledge that you are totally responsible for your success. Not the government, not your boss, not your parents, and not society as a whole. Only you. Despite the long-winded promises to the contrary, no one is coming to the rescue! Only you have the power to make the individual choices that will accumulate into the fruits of an exciting, successful, and satisfying life. Remember, the pursuit and attainment of joy-filled success is absolutely up to you. Choose to take the initiative and you’ll find opportunities you never imagined existed. It’s the right thing to do…and your success blesses others!
Copyright © 2008 by Tommy Newberry. All Rights Reserved.
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Wednesday, October 8th, 2008
Difficult, trying times reveal just how positive you really are. Think about it. What’s the virtue in being positive when you’re on a roll, when everything is clicking for you and falling your way?
In this second of my two-part blog (scroll down to see part one, posted yesterday) I am sharing some proven, practical methods for staying up when most are down…
9. Schedule Four-Minute Positive Injections Every Two Hours
Think of these as Positive Pit Stops. Review your goals or mission. Practice affirmation or visualization. Pray. Read the Bible. Relive a positive memory. Write a thank-you card or send an e-mail of appreciation to someone important. Ask 4:8 Questions. (See page 33 in that smiley face book)
10. Simplify and Declutter to stay U.P.
Complexity is negative. Simplicity is positive. Room by room, drawer by drawer, try tossing one tiny item of clutter every day for thirty consecutive days. My 1% clients love this one and so will you, because doing even a small task will help you to feel more positive. Break your jumbo-sized goals into sub-goals and milestones, and then splinter them into even smaller pieces if necessary to spur you into action. Renegotiate or downsize existing commitments to lighten your load a bit for the next thirty days.
11. Get to Bed Sixty Minutes Earlier for Ten Straight Days
Fatigue, especially chronic fatigue, invites negativity and cowardly thinking. During periods of intense or prolonged stress, extra sleep will help your brain remain an ally in the war against mediocrity. Cut something out of the evening schedule (maybe the bad news) and drift to sleep with visions of victories dancing in your head. Your body, mind, and spirit will thank you.
12. Take a Twenty-Four-Hour Mental Fast
Become Ultra-Positive one day at a time. You can rid your attitude of toxic thoughts through the practice of mental fasting. Read and reread The 4:8 Principle if you want to master this simple, relevant, powerful and biblically-based mental technique. During your fast, abstain from all complaining, fear-mongering, criticizing, excuse-making, gossiping, and worrying whatsoever! Start with a twenty-four minute fast and gradually discipline your mind to repel all negativity for a whole day. Focus on progress. Rinse and repeat as necessary.
13. Stay U.P. and Watch Your Favorite Funny Movies
Laughter is fabulously positive. Research indicates that people who laugh more actually have more fun. Isn’t that surprising? Consider building your own comedy library on DVD. Save funny movies on TIVO. Watch often. You’ll stay healthier, more creative, and less stressed–and that’s a great alternative to the medicine cabinet.
14. Have a Counter-Attack Plan U.P. and Ready
Become hypersensitive to your thought life. Since you can be negative only when you’re thinking “8:4 thoughts,” you can quickly become positive by thinking “4:8 thoughts.” This is called the Principle of Substitution. The split-second you notice any negative thought running through your mind, replace it emphatically with something like, “I am responsible” or “I trust God” “God is with me” “This is temporary” or “I can do it.” Repeat, repeat, repeat! Be ready with your comeback before the heat of the moment. Make negative, limiting thoughts unwelcome in your mind.
15. Re-Engage an Old Hobby to Stay U.P.
Involve yourself in a positive activity that used to be important to you but may have gotten squeezed out of your life due to other priorities. This will be both therapeutic and rejuvenating. Consider it a gift to yourself.
16. Intentionally Cultivate Ultra-Positive Company
This one is mandatory. It’s next to impossible to become or stay U.P. when the people you live and work with are petty, “8:4 thinkers.” Nothing equals the influence of your habitual associations. Especially now, be purposeful about which people are close to you on a regular basis. The people you hang out with influence your outlook on life. As you become more optimistic, you will attract more optimistic people in your life, and that’s good.
17. Help Someone Else U.P.
Donate your money. Donate your time. Volunteer. Simply serve someone less fortunate (and there are a billion or so to choose from) or contribute your talents and gifts to a worthy organization. Helping those who need help reduces self-centeredness and puts your own challenges into a much more positive perspective.
The key to staying U.P. is to remember that every situation can indeed be positive when you view it through the lens of Philippians 4:8, as an opportunity for spiritual growth, character refinement and the redistribution of joy.
Instead of adding to the gloom and doom hype, join the magnificent minority who spread joy…simply because it’s the right thing to do.
Coach
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Tuesday, October 7th, 2008
Difficult, trying times reveal just how positive you really are. Think about it. What’s the virtue in being positive when you’re on a roll, when everything is clicking for you and falling your way?
Your potential for business excellence, excellence in your marriage, and excellence in your family life demands that you master the skill of staying U.P. (Ultra-Positive) even when–and especially when–everyone else isn’t. There is a tendency in tough times to zero in on the things that are “out of whack” and forget about all that is working in our lives and in our country. This is easy to do, especially if we are not strategically insulated from the continuous downpour of gloom and doom reports of “breaking bad news.”
When you’re Ultra-Positive, you’ll be more creative, productive, energetic, attractive, and most importantly, receptive to God’s will. Here are eight practical options to build your momentum. Nine more are coming tomorrow. Pick your favorites and get started today. Then spread the joy to others.
1. Make the Decision to Stay U.P.
Nothing of consequence happens until you promise yourself that you’ll become the most positive person you know, even in light of challenging circumstances. Raise your standards! Become an inspiration to others. Everything else flows from this key decision to separate yourself from the herd mentality, from the vast majority who blame, whine, gossip, and predict the sky is falling. Life is short. Refuse to buy into this mass hypnotism…Take a stand, starting now.
2. Start U.P. then end U.P. every day.
One of the simplest ways to reduce stress and anxiety is to begin and end each day with what I call Positive Mental Nutrition™. Feed your mind with inspirational ideas, spiritual truth, or motivational nuggets for ten to fifteen minutes immediately upon awakening each morning and right before drifting to sleep each evening. During these two time periods, your mind is extremely susceptible to programming, so make sure your inputs are positive, healthy, and goal-directed. Read, visualize, affirm, pray, and rewrite your goals…and practice feeling thankful for what you do have!
3. Summarize Each Day’s Victories, Large or Small, in Writing.
This one practice alone can zap fear and generate quantum leaps in self-confidence. Start logging your accomplishments each evening in a notebook, hardbound journal, or on your computer. What a great, 4:8 habit!
4. U.P. your Physical Exercise
Another pillar of Ultra-Positive living is consistent, moderate exercise. This includes aerobic work to burn fat and improve heart health; weight work to tone and strengthen your muscles and elevate metabolism; and flexibility work to stay loose and limber. Exercise more. Exercise a lot more! Face the facts. When you’re in terrific shape and feel better about yourself, you feel better about your life and more optimistic about your future. You’re positioned to live U.P. to your full potential.
5. Break U.P. the Big Four
Negative thinking leads to negative emotions, which in turn trigger more negative thinking. The vicious cycle becomes engaged. The top four negative emotions include fear, worry, blame, and guilt. These terrorize your potential and immobilize your efforts toward becoming Ultra-Positive. When you begin experiencing results you didn’t want or expect, it’s easy to get scared and start thinking more about potential losses than potential gains. This mind-set triggers worry or what I call reverse goal setting, where you vividly imagine what you don’t want. To transfer the burden of worry, you will often blame someone or something outside of yourself. Alternatively, you may exaggerate your role in the negative events and experience guilt. Consider negative emotions to be lies from the enemy. Deal with them directly by refusing to entertain the thoughts that fuel them. This is a point very much worth reinforcing: Invest your time thinking about what you want instead of what you don’t want.
6. Forgive Someone, Including Yourself, Daily
Harboring grudges and hostility against anyone, including yourself, tends to attract more circumstances to be upset about. Practice forgiving somebody every day for real or imagined transgressions. The better you become at forgiveness, the more positive you can become as a human being. If you skip this one, I’ll even forgive you.
7. Quarantine Negativity if You Can’t Dissolve It
Carve out a particular time and place to worry (worry time) and to complain (issue time) each week. This is extremely effective because then the rest of your week isn’t diluted with the minority of negative circumstances that can infect otherwise healthy days. When you cut the spontaneity out of negativity, you severely weaken it.
8. Focus on God. He’s U.P.
Remind yourself of everything you know to be true about God. God is all-powerful. God is love. God is sovereign. God is always with us. God is absolute truth. God never changes. And so on. Thinking about God is good, really good! And the bigger you make God, the smaller your problems become.
Check back tomorrow for more!
Coach
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