Have you spent any time recently with a newly engaged couple? Could you imagine any future bride and groom still wanting to go ahead with their marriage plans if they had spent the last few months pointing out the weaknesses in one another? Ever noticed how easy it is to start focusing on “what’s missing” in the person you married? This doesn’t happen overnight, of course, but gradually, little by little, it is so common to start paying more attention to the flaws in your spouse than the positive qualities.